Emotional Mirroring in Kundalini Mediumship

In almost all counseling/therapy practices, there’s an understanding that in order to help alleviate someone’s emotional pain, empathy and psychoemotional connection is absolutely necessary.

The counselor/healer needs to have an understanding of what it feels like to be in that person’s shoes, and help label and process those feelings.

In shamanic practice (from many traditions), it is necessary for the Shaman to take in the sickness of their patient and transform it within themselves in order to know what to do to help the sick person heal.

This is the same principle as in counseling/therapy, and it’s true also in Kundalini Mediumship.  The healer must feel in themselves the energy, emotion, or pattern that is coming up in the “sick” person or patient; it is essential to facilitate connection to Spirit and healing.

For me, this is one of the hardest and one of the easiest parts of being a healer and working with Kundalini energy.  Sometimes in working with a patient, I easily recognize the pattern, pain or emotion within myself, it feels familiar and I can easily connect to myself and the other person.  During these sessions, it seems that things move quickly and somewhat effortlessly…I know which rhythms are needed and which Spirits are working through us and with us.

At other times, I don’t feel the connection at all or have a difficult time understanding and feeling into where the other person is at, which makes the tracking and bodywork in Kundalini Mediumship more difficult, as I don’t feel as clearly connected to Spirit.  During these sessions, it may be due to my own blocks or defenses, or that I don’t have an easily accessible memory, experience or imprint of that particular pattern.  These sessions sometimes feel more slow, less connected or insightful, or are more draining. 

During this quarantine time, I’m in my second pregnancy, with 2 days to go, my 2 year old and husband are at home, and I’ve been struggling with many difficult patterns and emotions.  In our current situation, I sometimes feel unable to “escape” these difficulties…in my body, mind, emotions.  I can’t lean into the same strategies and comforts that I have before, it feels like the rug has been pulled out from under me again and again. 

This has been at times super painful and challenging, but is also a gift and a lesson from Spirit.  Without being able to cope or escape, I must face these painful wounds and sit with them (sometimes feeling like I’m being forced to do so).  Being with my own pain has provided me with deep, visceral feeling and insight into some of the wounds/patterns that I didn’t feel I had access to before.

For example, I’ve never before faced a true depression, even though I have felt depressed at moments and have many people in my life who’ve confided in me about their experiences with depression.  Over the past several months, I’ve felt deeply and painfully stuck in my own depression, and am able to relate to those energetic patterns and imprints in ways I never have before.  I know intellectually and from a distance that this will be invaluable to my work as a healer, but in those moments of negativity and despair I would rather scream and yell and get away. 

I don’t believe that only “healers” or “shamans” have the ability to do this, I think this empathy and connection from our own felt experience is a part of the innate human capacity.  We often tone down or turn off our ability to feel our own and others’ pain in order to defend or protect ourselves from discomfort, but it is actually the key to healing and growth. 

In some ways, this quarantine experience is a crucible, a concentrated experience of discomfort for many that can be an opportunity to face our triggers and work with them.  In stating this, I also realize my own place of privilege in my society/community and that for many, this is not an “opportunity” but a serious struggle for survival and life and death.  I don’t know how to offer consolation or full understanding for that life and death struggle other than to acknowledge it’s existence and continue to work to help those in greater need than myself. 

If you can, take time to think about and feel your triggers when they come up.  Sit with the anxiety, depression, panic, fear that come up for you, and see what happens when you let yourself face the emotions rather than running or escaping.  Find someone, a counselor, friend, family member, energy healer, whomever, to help you process these patterns and triggers, or consider connecting directly to Spirit.  This moment in time can be used to help you move deeper into yourself, and your journey into healing.